Matthew 5:28 states "But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart." (KJV)
The topic of pornography addiction is a really sensitive topic for me. I surely condemn all participations of it that I ever stumbled across. It's still bad enough that I messed myself up in it for awhile. There's really no excuse for the things I've done, and it's not very easy for me to write up on this. It brings me great regret to think that of all the people in the world, I have to be one of those Joes who get locked up in the fleshly mindset and ignore God's request to keep the heart clean. It's like battling with an off and on drug addiction and pride of being able to be stupid. Now that I've identified the problem and state God is larger than life, it's time to make prescription for myself and others if they want to follow:
1) It's just time to deal with the fact that some guys belong to a crowd of having hyper sex drives. Patience is a long tested virtue that will work on self and allow God to prepare the right companion for fulfillment.
2) The hormones will come and go. It's really rough when you want to blame someone, especially if you are fighting to stay single, when you get attracted to her. I really thank the Lord for giving me a mourning heart, whenever I was tempted to do something evil for sexual selfishness.
3) Learn to calm down and let it go quietly. The Bible instructs the man to love himself and not be in animosity with any imbalances. This is so that the man will also learn to lead his future wife, who tends to be a lot more sensitive!
4) Educate yourself more about Scriptures. I've found submitting to Scriptures and listening to the Word of God taught by bold pastors has made me discern things about myself a whole lot better!
5) Pray about it. I think a wonderful benefit to praying to God as ourselves is that it can keep us from gossiping. I'm able to transfer all my thoughts that I would normally be tempted to gossip to Jesus and not let it out with others. This is an extreme benefit in that I'm able to know that those gossip leaders have false powers that lead to nowhere in life and only inspire misery.
6) Make friends with some role model sisters in Christ. When I've fallen in darkness, what makes my heart break a lot is to think about those wonderful sisters. It's like I'm doing them a disservice. Last thing God needs is another lying scumbag taking advantage of people for personal use.
7) Get to know yourself. It's so important to be able to keep track of feelings, state of minds, and hormonal elevations. Every success in spiritual battles comes from relying on the Spirit of God. Being able to monitor ourselves and remembering to observe God's Word is a picture perfect model of a soldier of Christ.
8) Most important of all, be honest with self and God! Don't make reasonable justifications for the cycle of addiction that you are stuck on. This is totally a downfall. I'm sure the devil likes to mess with our heads and make us feel bad, as to give us reason to ignore the entire situation.
9) Take the leap of faith into the unknown. It's going to be difficult leaving behind the current life and maybe painful at first, but it has to be done if it's hindering with your life. If what you desire doesn't come to pass, why not let the addiction go? Let go of the security blanket. Repent and allow yourself to become a fully transformed creature in the eyes of God.
I write this in hopes to rescue that one person who needs it the most and happened to stumble on this page. Perhaps you will be used by God and become highly reputed by others as God's kingdom is established.
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