For all the small experiences I have with dates, I have confirmed it was just an official date while being all there mentally with only one person. It's also the first time I experienced the after effects of being interested on a confirmed date and realizing how I failed at it!
Still, I have been learning fast and I realize that communicating with my dating partner has been valuable. I struggled so many times but now I don't seem to have this hindering us.
The main thing is talking about what you like about her as a potential partner and asking her what she thinks about you.