I wouldn't say that I grew up in the best environment while being a good kid and trying to soak in everything like a sponge but finally overcoming negativity and personal insecurity as a grown-up, I can say that it was cute to have gotten away with a few bad things that resulted in just a slap on the wrist. I'm still inclined to do good though and I'm just not in it for the money so you could count on me to distribute resources with however I'm supposed to based on any plans or agreements (laws).
Something that affected me for most of my life was always being a shorty! Going on online dating profiles and constantly seeing attractive profiles that said their ideal mate's height numbers were taller than me didn't help my confidence that much either for a while. What really changed everything in scope was starting to think in a positive direction. Positivity is also well-intended by God. Take for instance what this famous Bible verse says:
Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Philippians 4:8 (NIV)
Without a doubt, combining self-confidence with a positive and diligent attitude fits in like a charm! It's important to remember that true humility which is admirable isn't about thinking any less of yourself. It's thinking less often about yourself.
I've been able to get away with realizing that I was probably meant to be taller but something happened! My male cousins are tall. I have broad shoulders and large wide feet that would match the profile of an average height Caucasian (5'8"-5'9")!
It's all about nuances that one has to realize which is difficult at first while being moody and unwilling to let go of something, which will make some dumb people insecure about you like it already happened to me!
For going on to the dating world now, I believe that women wanting men to look a certain way including their height is more likely to be based on physical attraction with having some form of insecurity. It totally makes sense because including some good friends I know, there are several ladies out there who wish they were taller, smarter, richer, slimmer, or prettier. How this fits into my life now is that I think I have a shot at pursuing a lady slightly taller than me because she might already feel very secure about her height and able to manage herself well around others. I've already been fortunate to meet a girl like this and she was so head over heels romantically interested in me before, even though I said it's too much! I'm not running back to her either, even though my heart for any love interest has opened up recently.
In conclusion, when it comes to refusing to date a short but average good man, the lady is either insecure from being below his height level or massively a giant(!) or she's just choosing to look down upon that aspect out of personal preference. It's no worries because I've realized that the ones who aren't that insecure or shallow tend to be very beautiful outwardly anyway. It goes to say that a short but good ole' single and interested man should stay happy, confident with himself, and be diligent at it while waiting patiently upon the Lord to deliver him a heavenly match! ( Honestly, what helps me the most now to stay upbeat is that I have strong personal evidence that I at least have average and healthy genes on American standards to pass on to posterity. I think something happened that made me become shorter than I would have liked.)
