For a guy of my small stature and ability to rouse concern in others still, I was actually really shy about asking out girls. When this situation occurred where my buddy's sister was getting married, (that reminds me, I need to mail the card for accepting her invitation) I started sending out practice messages of asking out the girls I didn't really care would reject me. Basically, it was to make them feel a little weird inside because it seems like I feel what a girl would be feeling so that was like my intuition for doing so, and I had fun.
After writing out those messages, I just copied and pasted my favorite lines to ask out the girls. I then went down the list and lo and behold, on my third try, I received an acceptance while the other two reached back to me politely decline the invitation. Now, I seriously have the feeling that those messages I sent to the girls who never got back to me, have had a positive effect for my situation. The positive effect is basically making them feel like a bunch of weird and crazy ladies.
Just flat out, I seriously don't care if any woman rejects my advances now because I can just move on while feeling a little sorrow. I don't care about feeling the sorrow because I believe that eventually I will figure it out and the right person is someone I will be able to form a good relationship with me. Obviously, the ones who are attracted to me and accept my offerings would be the best for me to work with.
Academy of Scrappy Credible Undergraduate Desire
