Proper Psychology for Self

4AverageLife's Main Personal List

1. I want to be married to a hot woman who enjoys making love almost all the time and to have this undying love and companionship with her and then maintain being a family while being a wealthy man! I must choose and be loved by this woman. Five criteria to look for:  I'm just looking for 1.) a sexy lady who is 2.) laid back, 3.) she wants to be with a guy,  4.) cares about personality more than appearances, and 5.) is usually interested in getting intimate just for fun! I'll be happy to settle with one of those women for the rest of my life.
   
2. I want to be rich from trading and investing in options, stocks, and Forex. Eventually, I want this to also include some real estate and bonds. I also want to make a lot of money from getting involved in IT which focuses on software engineering, IT security, and database administration. 
3. Buy a single family home. I must be rich!
4. Do some smart cooking. I must be vigilant, committed, not distracted, and feeling lots of time.
5. Work on applying clean stuff to my face. Buy related products. I must feel comfortable.
6. Continue to do growing-naturally-taller routines, even if some of them are a scam! I must be committed and remind myself. 
7. Work out four days a week with alternating muscular, full body,  and yoga classes.  I must be committed and remind myself.
8. Conduct regular hygiene. Take a shower before sleeping. Don't forget the mouth guard. I must be committed and remind myself.
9. Read something from a book. I must commit.  

Purpose: "I am brilliant and universally favored by others therefore I will live the life of a wealthy gentleman." 

My Top 10 values are in order

1. Faith
2. Love, Happiness, and Joy 
3. Personal freedom
4. Balance
5. Understanding
6. Health
7. Strength and self-reliance
8. Inner harmony
9. Goodness
10. Enjoyment

I see myself as a fit and cut up dude enjoying physical intimacy with a beautiful woman who is my faithful wife and she's loving every second of it, too! I am also a rich man with successful results that are visible while managing any personal hassles or adversity with positivity that is second to none. I make money while having a lot of free time on my hands. 

Affirmations of what I want:

1. I am married to a hot woman who enjoys making love almost all the time and now has this undying love and companionship with her and maintaining a family as a wealthy man! I have chosen and am loved by this woman.
2. I am now averaging reading at least thirty books a year!

Affirmations of what I want to believe:

1. I am always fully happy with what I have going on in life.
2. I am capable of not feeling hurt or bothered by others.

Affirmations for compelling visions:

1. I have a purpose for living.
2. I visualize my dreams with clear and specific goals in mind.

Affirmations for thinking, speaking, and affirming into existence:

1. I have control over my thoughts and stay focused on my affirmations.
2. I enjoy thinking with optimism and a cheerful heart.

Affirmations for connecting to the heart:

1. I keep myself open-minded to finding my woman.
2. I am pursuing things that really matter to me the most.

Affirmations for acting:

1. I am taking action right away without letting it linger.
2. I let myself accept great opportunities when the situation arises. 

Summary of personal tasks:

Trading/investing, doing work, working out, growth stretches, ab belt workout, push ups/pull ups, facial product, showering, brushing teeth twice, reading, homework, and other errands. 

Summary of interpersonal goals:

Work on close friendships and love.

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Bare minimum statement:

The bare minimum things that I want to do on a regular day is invest/trade, read, clear out email clutter, workout, conduct good hygiene, and work on an online course. I no longer feel bad about trying to make money through investing and trading. I'm pretty much happy being a nobody in those sectors and don't need anyone really supporting me with how good or bad I'm doing. As long as I make enough to get around with my fat lifestyle then I'll be happy to be maintaining it when I get there. 

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Main Personal Daily Tasks Until Completion

1. Good hygiene. Expectation:  my face won't break out and to also lessen worries over my teeth getting any worse. Value:  feeling good about being physically presentable to others. 
2. Good exercise and diet. (Include stretches.) Expectation:  physically feel lighter, healthier, and stronger with plenty of confidence. Value:  my personal health the most and also like feeling good about improving in my workouts. 
3. Work on completing main projects at work. Expectation:  gain more experience and to get paid for whatever amount I agreed to for it. Value:  having enough salary to support my lifestyle.
4. Conduct trades and investments with intent to master them. Expectation:  eventually get really good at it. Value:  independence financially and with time. 
5.  Work on learning. Expectation:  gain an education that will support my work and values. Value:  knowledge for the sake of always looking to improve my current situation.
6. Clear out daily emails. Expectation: learn something and get better at doing it. Value:  not being overwhelmed by unchecked emails that are interesting for me to look at.    
7. Enjoy life. Expectation/Value:  it's more of a reward so that's always something I would like to keep on including for myself. 

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What did I do right today?

I'm figuring out a way to be effective without procrastinating.

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Basically, I need to hold off on doing some good things that make me feel happy and focus on maintaining my current situation to experience some success and get it all in order. This is a necessary characteristic of being successful, but it's also important to not neglect your own personal happiness; otherwise, it would only mean you reached your goal but if you were still happy then you could also call it being successful.

I'm defining success as managing to stay happy while reaching a goal that you desire. From what I learned in valuable classes I've taken, it's important to not stay fixated on stressful emotions which will make you procrastinate. It's also good to hold off on some things in place of doing something else that would have more value for reaching your goals. 

A great strategy is to focus on your values and expectations, while letting yourself be reminded of it daily. I mean I place spending time with loved ones near the top of my chart, so I'm willing to sacrifice my time that would go into reaching my goals. I'm still going to be happy with my life, so the trick will be making up for the lost time while staying healthy, like still getting enough good sleep. 

There's also something important about always feeling competent. There is this natural opposing force underneath us that can make us feel like we're undeserving. I thought this was part of my spiritual walk, but then it would turn my relationship with Christ as a religious sort of thing and I believe Christ to have given me absolute freedom over my choices and not being weighed down by burdensome things anymore. This negative emotion isn't really something that I need to keep on experiencing for Christ's sake. Christ is risen and is victorious! This is what I believe like other Christians out there, so it was just a false awakening and like some religious misconception for me. 

So with my girlfriend showering her affection towards me which I find to be such a turn-on, I really want to keep on encouraging it so it means that I will be maintaining myself quite heavily to favor her affection being like a permanent kind of thing even long after we're finally married with kids someday. I was initially worried about her being a male underneath, but then again, a lot of females resemble some handsome masculine features to me. I am quite close to one, but I already know she's female and her mom has been turning a little masculine looking as she ages and doesn't have her makeup on. Overall, it's just appearances that don't matter to me. I was just worried and didn't want to marry an actual biological man and never have kids someday! 

I am happy to admit that I have accumulated enough evidence to conclude for myself that she's a very pretty and biological female. Another possible concern that I have is being rejected because of my short stature. I don't look short because everything else comes out looking normal and in some cases, even physically advantageous for me. That's about it, if she rejects me for it eventually then I'm going to be happy for the time we had together and that's it literally. I'm ready to accept this part and move on, but while at it, it's not going to affect my confidence with going all in with our romantic relationship. She does stand taller than me, but still maybe shorter than my average guy friends so I would be a short king married to a beautiful tall lady if she accepts it later on. 

I really have a detachment about being constantly around tall people now and don't even care if they want to mock me for being too short to them. It may get annoying if they constantly do it and even try to discriminate against me subtly for it, but I've learned my ultimate technique is just dishing out better advice if they try to feed me their own advice that I find to be annoying.