Saturday, April 22, 2023

Detailing What I Think About a Few Close Friends

4AverageLife's Main Personal List
  1. I want to be married to a hot woman who enjoys making love almost all the time and to have this undying love and companionship with her and then maintain being a family while being a wealthy man! I must choose and be loved by this woman. Five criteria to look for:  I'm just looking for 1.) a sexy lady who is 2.) laid back, 3.) she wants to be with a guy,  4.) cares about personality more than appearances, and 5.) is usually interested in getting intimate just for fun! I'll be happy to settle with one of those women for the rest of my life.
  2. I want to be rich from trading and investing in options, stocks, and Forex. Eventually, I want this to also include some real estate and bonds. I also want to make a lot of money from getting involved in IT which focuses on software engineering, IT security, and database administration. 
  3. Buy a single family home. I must be rich!
  4. Do some smart cooking. I must be vigilant, committed, not distracted, and feeling lots of time.
  5. Work on applying clean stuff to my face. Buy related products. I must feel comfortable.
  6. Continue to do growing-naturally-taller routines, even if some of them are a scam! I must be committed and remind myself. 
  7. Work out four days a week with alternating muscular, full body,  and yoga classes.  I must be committed and remind myself.
  8. Conduct regular hygiene. Take a shower before sleeping. Don't forget the mouth guard. I must be committed and remind myself.
  9. Finish my software engineering related courses. I must be committed and remind myself.
  10. Read something from a book. I must commit.  
Purpose: "I am brilliant and universally favored by others therefore I will live the life of a wealthy gentleman." 

My Top 10 values are in order
  1. Faith
  2. Love, Happiness, and Joy 
  3. Personal freedom
  4. Balance
  5. Understanding
  6. Health
  7. Strength and self-reliance
  8. Inner harmony
  9. Goodness
  10. Enjoyment
I see myself as a fit and cut up dude enjoying physical intimacy with a beautiful woman who is my faithful wife and she's loving every second of it, too! I am also a rich man with successful results that are visible while managing any personal hassles or adversity with positivity that is second to none. I make money while having a lot of free time on my hands. 

Affirmations of what I want:
  1. I am married to a hot woman who enjoys making love almost all the time and now has this undying love and companionship with her and maintaining a family as a wealthy man! I have chosen and am loved by this woman.
  2. I am now averaging reading at least thirty books a year!
Affirmations of what I want to believe:
  1. I am always fully happy with what I have going on in life.
  2. I am capable of not feeling hurt or bothered by others.
Affirmations for compelling visions:
  1. I have a purpose for living.
  2. I visualize my dreams with clear and specific goals in mind.
Affirmations for thinking, speaking, and affirming into existence:
  1. I have control over my thoughts and stay focused on my affirmations.
  2. I enjoy thinking with optimism and a cheerful heart.
Affirmations for connecting to the heart:
  1. I keep myself open-minded to finding my woman.
  2. I am pursuing things that really matter to me the most.
Affirmations for acting:
  1. I am taking action right away without letting it linger.
  2. I let myself accept great opportunities when the situation arises. 
Summary of personal tasks:

Trading/investing, doing work, working out, growth stretches, ab belt workout, push ups/pull ups, facial product, showering, brushing teeth twice, reading, homework, and other errands. 

Summary of interpersonal goals:

Work on close friendships and love.

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What did I do right today? 

I'm starting to find a way to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

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It's pretty amazing to me with how I'm feeling very stable underneath after putting it all together now mentally. I don't really feel it's necessary to start flipping out or even joking like that too with anybody in general. I know a rude uncle-in-law who likes to do this and shows narcissistic traits. I clashed with him already and he's currently not interested in being outplayed by me anytime soon while making it look easy.

Even in my conflicts which have mainly been with covert narcissists which has been distracting a lot of my personal attention with some personal development, I have realized that I've been doing what I want all this time. It's really not hard for me anymore to move on from these narcs since they are the ones who can't handle it and complain about me more than I do about them to others. 

I can bring it up and spot the symptoms now and just communicate thoroughly and assuredly now. It's just part of my natural personality. I think some personalities are doomed to have a few narcissistic traits if theirs can be more turbulent like a close female friend of mine does. She can be pretty weird sometimes while going crazy and act like a narc. She is going in to see a therapist and even recommends it to everyone like how a narcissist would! We manage to have a close budding relationship and she claims that I broke her curse over being friends with any guy. 

I'm not really telling her what I think the reason is to her face, but it's because she can't help it sometimes with acting up in an anxious and narcissistic manner. Notably, it happens to be that her close female buddies and other family members can tolerate the way she is more than straight guys would typically be able to. I'm surprised she doesn't even have any close gay male friends as well so maybe that extends to her general anxiety or envy with the male population. 

She doesn't always hang out with her besties 24/7 and they all sometimes seem to be always very busy with their personal lives while not being able to give each other time. It's starting to make sense that her weaknesses might traditionally have been the areas that I struggle to reconcile in the eyes of others. Her stubbornness about wanting to stay friends has turned out to be the trump card that I've needed all along to learn how to maintain a working relationship if necessary with any narcissistic friend in the near future.